My mom is one of my besties. We have been through a lot together. Like a lot, a lot. Aside from that, we have shared together an enormous amount of good times. Our time together never goes by without a good belly laugh. What can I say? She laughs at all my material. She’s my biggest fan and loves me in my most unloveable moments. But let me be clear, she is not the mom who will brag endlessly about me. Would it kill her to do that, though? This is an actual quote from my mom: “You have many redeeming qualities, but art just isn’t one of them.” At that point she handed me a wine glass to take home with me that I once painted…for her. All this to say, I have learned a lot from her. She is also adorable and happens to be in the photo below. Continue on for my top 10 Ann-isms.
- Be kind to strangers, waiters and especially to old people. I’ve been in a lot of airports this year, and I’ve come to the conclusion that the world would be a much happier place if we were all just a little more kind to strangers. As far as I can tell, a smile and a thank you never killed anyone. This also leads me to my next point.
- SAY THANK YOU! Do I need to elaborate? No, I didn’t think so. Just say it.
- Write thank you notes. My mom used to nag me and nag me…and nag me, until I finished my thank you notes. To this day, I still feel guilty until I have written them. It’s like her nagging voice just drilled itself into my brain and never left. Thanks for that, Mom. But seriously, thank you. I promise you will make someone’s day if they get a hand written thank you note in the mail. Nobody gets real mail anymore, so it’s special. I save a lot of my cards and love looking back on them from time to time. In fact, I have a note from my niece that says: “Dear Aunt Meg, thank you for the presents. I love them and I love to get presents!” COME ON! Besides, people will think you are classy AF.
- Stand up straight and don’t fidget. I suck at the standing up straight part, but actively work at it. Tons of models today are featured slumped over with their shoulders pushed forward. I don’t know who started this madness but somehow it’s caught on like wildfire. Fact: you look taller and slimmer if you stand up straight. “When you aren’t fidgeting you look very beautiful…and very tall.” If you can name that movie, we need to be friends.
- If you are making a recipe and don’t have the ingredient it calls for, do a quick Google search and see if there is a substitution. She didn’t actually teach me the Google part, because I’m old enough to know a world before Google…but you get the idea.
- Always take the price tag off a gift before you give it to someone. You probably already know that. However, you would be surprised to know how many people do not know that. Pass it on.
- Light your candles. Did you recently get new candles for a sconce or candlestick? After you put your candles in them, light it for a while and let the candle lose it’s “newness.” You don’t want fresh unlit candles lingering around your house. You don’t live in a show-home.
- Laughter is the best medicine. Humor will get you through a lot of tough times and you will always find it in the most unexpected places. It’s also important to laugh at yourself.
- It’s always better to be over-dressed than under-dressed. Don’t you want to look like the best dressed person in the room anyway? I would die if I showed up to a black tie event in jeans. On the flip side, don’t be ridiculous and wear a cocktail dress during the day. I once saw a woman in a black cocktail dress at a conference – full on with an evening clutch and heels. She looked ridiculous. There is a difference between professional dress and cocktail attire.
- You better go get a donut…you don’t want to get weak! It was actually my grandma that said this while we were on a trip. We were legit walking down the street and she bolted into a bakery shouting, “Better go in here and get a donut…we don’t want to get weak!” Being hangry makes you say and do things you regret. Don’t be hangry. And never, under any circumstances, shop on an empty stomach. Eat the damn donut.
See ya on the next post.
-The Chic(ish) Chick
*This post is lovingly dedicated to my hilarious, adorable and quirky mom, Ann.